Boudoir photography might be one of the more whispered about subjects when it comes to couples gifting. But we’re here to put a spotlight on it with Erishyll Mae Roberts of Erishyll Mae Photography to help you feel comfortable within this space. Let’s talk about it!

Q. I know photographers share a lot of their work on social media – should I assume that my photos will also be shared? Or do I have the ability to ask that them not to, even though the photographer owns the images?

A. Definitely always ask! We are human and sometimes forget to ask if you are comfortable with that, but asking never hurt anyone. We love to share the positivity and beauty, but we understand that these are very private and vulnerable photos, so it’s good to be on the same page about sharing.

Q. How do I communicate that there are certain elements of my body that I’m not comfortable with to my photographer without sounding negative?

A. When booking a boudoir session, it’s always good to be very upfront in the beginning about what your comfortable with. Boudoir is about being body positive and comfortable in front of a (sometimes) complete stranger, so be very transparent! It will not sound negative to us. We want you to be as comfortable as possible so that we ensure your shoot goes smoothly. It’s always better to be transparent with us so we know exactly what to photograph and not.

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Q.  Lingerie is a given, but has there been other outfits that you’ve seen women use that are still appropriate for boudoir?

A. Absolutely! Boudoir is about expression, so whatever outfits are picked out is strictly up to you. Each boudoir session is catered to each woman and what their preferred style is. If you’re more shy, then you can bring oversize shirts, sweaters, etc. If you are leaning more towards sensual, then you can definitely wear as little as you’re comfortable with!

Q. I booked a session on a strong-willed day, and now I’m freaking out. I really want to do it but how can I calm nerves?

A. Literally anything that makes you calm to begin with! The most common one is champagne. Some boudoir photographers offer that complimentary to their session. If you’re not a drinker, you can also bring a trusted friend with you to hype you up! 




My name is Erishyll, pronounced "Air-Ri-Shull", but to make it easier just call me Mae. 🙂 I am a Kansas City wedding photographer who is down to travel. I have been photographing weddings for 4 years now and met so many amazing people.

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