I know we all hope for things to always be easy in life, but typically if you want things to go well, they require work and forethought. Even in a wonderfully fulfilling marriage we must make plans, engage in rituals of connection, and set traditions in order to maintain a strong relationship with our spouse. Especially if you want that connection to be strong, and stay strong. Often things in life that are easy to do, are also easy not to do. So what are the plans, rituals, and traditions that can help you stay deeply connected to your partner?
1. CATCH UP. (DAILY)
Finding time every single day to just catch up is an important part of a couple staying up-to-date on each other. A lot can happen in a day, and in order to stay connected to your partner there needs to be a little time everyday where you catch up. Some couples do this at night while lying in bed together, some do it over breakfast in the morning. And some do it over the phone sometime during the day. It doesn’t matter what time you do it, but what’s important is that you do it.
2. DATE NIGHTS. (WEEKLY)
Date nights (or days) should be a non-negotiable. I know this might sound expensive, time consuming, or even difficult because of the little humans that may be someday running around your house, but it’s doable. You just have to make it a priority, plan it, and don’t cancel. Sometimes we look to make excuses why we can’t, and I say, “Make excuses why you can and will do it.”
You can make it a weekly date night, or bi-weekly, but you prioritize it above the rest of your schedule. There are so many ways to spice up a regular lame dinner date. You can order take-out, then go to a park (on a nice day of course) and sit at a picnic table and enjoy your food while the birds serenade to you. It doesn’t have to be perfect, just intentional. This is such an important stop on the rituals of connection that takes you out of your normal day to day and fuels a rekindling of that initial passion that you felt for each other.
3. VACATION. (YEARLY)
Taking a yearly vacation is so important to the health of a relationship. Unplugging from your regular life and getting away, even if only for a weekend, is therapeutic. Setting aside time every year where you and your partner experience new things, see new sights, and engage in deep conversations about your careers, relationship, life, family, conditions of your heart, and soul is very invaluable. This is a time where you can really bare your soul and share your hopes, dreams, or even fears. Vacations can keep couples deeply connected.
How you catch up, what you actually do on a date, or when you take a vacation are all up to you. Find what works for you and your partner. Maybe you wake up early each day and take a walk around the block together, maybe that includes walking the dog, or going to a coffee shop. What matters is that you take that time every day to remember each other. This will require you to plan ahead. You will need to turn the TV off, put the phone down, and close that laptop… but the return will make a profound positive impact on your relationship. And just like when we think about staying healthy, it requires action, you can’t just think about staying healthy, you must do something. And when you do something, you reap the benefits. Your relationship is just like that; it will reflect the attention and care it is given.
TIMMY GIBSON
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Timmy Gibson is a Matchmaker, Relationship Coach and the owner of Timmy Gibson Weddings, an Officiant Team of 7. Timmy also hosts a weekly podcast on the topics of love and relationships along with other topics. His podcast is available on Spotify, Apple, Google, Audible and other various podcast platforms.
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